Our kids grow up fast. Life experiences causes them to make increasingly more adult-like decisions each day.
Unfortunately, adult-like decisions and life experiences can also have a toll on our children. Whether it’s school or work, as difficulties mount for our kids, so may their need to use substances which for them might alleviate their stress.
Undoubtedly, these issues can cause anyone to relapse and turn to alcohol or drugs, so being aware and proactive toward your child’s behavior can make the difference in them overcoming their dependency.
In part 3 of this series, we look at some very adult-like issues more and more of our kids go through on almost a daily basis.
You would think, given the relatively young ages of our kids, especially teens, that they’d be too young to have war stories, or to reminisce about their prior drug use.
Drug use and age, however, aren’t immune to each other. Some kids begin taking drugs at a very young age, so given that, they more likely than not have war stories.
War stories in which a kid reminisces about their drug of choice, can likely trigger a relapse. The cause of this occurrence can come from a variety of sources, say for example, a concert in which not only was the music good, but the drugs made the whole event better.
If you overhear your child speaking fondly of their times as a user, intervene immediately. Be certain to call the rehabilitation center your child attended for their advice.
Keep track of how many times drugs are brought up by your teen, and under what circumstances. Ask them why they’re suddenly bringing up the time and events in which they’ve used drugs.
Remind them that in the end, being sober is a much better option than harkening back to a past that was unhealthy, especially now as war stories and being reminiscent can lead to relapse.
Boredom can cause a relapse in anyone. This is especially true with teens whose daily routine of school-then-home-then school again, drags on through a semester.
Or, there are instances when a teen has far too much time on their hands, like during summer break.
Either way, boredom can be a large factor toward a kid’s relapse. While monotonous day-to-day activities come off unbearable, the one thing a teen suffering through substance abuse knows is that their drug of choice can have an impact on the tediousness of fifth and sixth period.
To combat this, try to keep your kids occupied. Encourage them to get involved with a student group or take elective classes to help rekindle their interest in school.
During summer, steer them in the direction of a part-time job, an internship or charity work.
These activities can help your teen avoid boredom and monotony, while ensuring you that they are better protected against relapse.
“Life’s unfair!” How many times have we heard our teens make such statements? The fact is, once our teens are drug free, they may still experience feelings of inadequacy and self-pity.
Our teens may feel sorry for themselves because they can no longer party with their friends like they used to. Their sobriety becomes a hindrance, with nothing beneficial. They’re now left out of activities simply because they are no longer substance abusers.
As you can imagine, particularly with the social pressures our teens go through, to lose any sort of social status can be detrimental to a teen. And for a teen who is just recently recovered, the impulse to turn back to drugs for only a semblance of what life once was, can be overwhelming.
Self-pity is a deeply internalized emotion. As a parent, you may have trouble spotting it in your teen, so pay close attention to his or her attitude, especially in lieu of big events you know of that your teen attended while using, but can no longer go to.
If you recognize depression, agitation or negativity associated with your teen’s sobriety, explain to them that their life has turned a new and important corner, and that hanging out with old friends will only be a step backward.
Sobriety is mature, and should be regarded with respect and honor. Not only that, but your teen is a better overall person because they are sober.
As parents, we should never treat our kids’ issues with addiction as something that is their fault or a character flaw in who they are. You should instead try to understand their trouble and with proper addiction counseling, work with them to the point where their lives are back on track.
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